OOOH LA LA…HAVE I GOT A SURPRISE FOR YOU!! Well, not you, but your significant other, but also kind of you? When everyone was asking for gift guides I decided it was time to share my “12 days of sexmas” that I do for Brenyn every year. If we are being really honest with ourselves, I think he likes these 12 gifts more than ANY of the other gifts I give him on actual Christmas morning.
Bren & I have been together 6 years & we never want things to get boring in the bedroom, & sexmas is one of the BEST ways to keep things spicy, flirty & fun.
THIS LIST IS NOT FOR EVERYONE! If you are into it, great! If it's too much for you, that is also great. Take what you like, & leave what you don’t. Sex is a subject we should be able to discuss, but if you’re uncomfortable with it, maybe next time.
Now to the sex toys, lube, new positions, & so much more to have the best sexmas ever. Here is how I do it. I wrap up each of the 12 gifts & keep them in a super secret, super safe place. Each day I place one of them on the bed sometime in the late morning, that way no matter what time the kink hits, the gift is on the bed & sexmas is ready to go. You could do 12 consecutive days in a row, or you could do 12 random days throughout December, although, if you’re not too busy setting up children’s toys on Christmas Eve, I highly recommend saving day 12 for Christmas Eve. Buckle up & get ready for your significant other's eyes to really pop out of their head when they realize what is happening.
I love to start sexmas with this one because you can use all the things you put into the stocking throughout the 12 days! Here are some ideas of what I have put in the stocking in the past.
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Today you give the gift of {fantasy}. All you need with this one is to wrap up a little notebook, a piece of paper, a sticky note, whatever piece of stationary you choose, & a pen! On the top of the piece of paper write “SEXMAS LIST” & underneath that write “write down your sexy dreams, fantasies, & desires of things you want to try”. Once they write down their sexmas list, you will be the one to choose one thing from that list to try for DAY 2 of sexmas! But don’t throw the list away!!! Keep it in a safe place to surprise your significant other for some random days in 2024. It is kind of like having a sex super power & you can use it at any time you choose. Can you imagine the look on their face when on some random day in JULY you fulfill one of their secret sexy fantasies?!
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This one is SO FUN. Grab this camera & before you give it to your significant other, take some sexy pictures with it! Dress up in some sexy lingerie or go nude if you prefer & snap some pictures guaranteed to make your lover go WILD. If you need some posing inspiration literally search boudoir photo shoot on Pinterest & copy & paste the pose. I sometimes find it hard to take the pics of myself so I drag liver into coming & taking some of me. If you don’t have someone to come & take pictures of you head to a mirror & take some mirror selfies while showing off your hot bod. Once you have taken the pics, wrap them up with the camera! I gave Brenyn the camera the first year I did this, & now every year I just give him the new pics BUT the camera gets great use throughout the year in the bedroom. Pretty much every time I come out in lingerie Brenyn is grabbing the camera from our sex bin & snapping a pic so he “never forgets”.
Role play might not be your style, but I promise it is so sexy & fun. You kinda create a new persona, dive into your inner sex kitten vibes, & have some fun sex. Here are some of my favorite role plays:
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LISTEN. I am a huge fan of sex toys. Especially if you are married. I mean we already know how important I think it is to keep things spicy. A lot of girls have messaged me & asked how to introduce a sex toy into the bedroom, THIS IS A GREAT WAY TO, but also let your partner know that it is not because your partner is not satisfying you, it is just to make sex more exhilarating, & for some of us? Getting that O is a team sport & we just need a little extra support. Ya know? Today wrap up a toy that you have been DYING to try or any from my list below, & if you trust me on anything, trust me on this, these sex toys are AMAZING.
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Add some canned whipped cream, some chocolate sauce, some donuts, or some carmel to your grocery order this week. Tonight things are getting extra sweet & extra delicious. Linking some of my favorite “sexy snacks” to sweeten things up in the bedroom. I can’t link whipped cream & ice but add those to the list.
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Nothing is sexier than an intimate bath for two. Today wrap up some bubble bath, maybe a bath salt or bomb, some rose petals, & a body scrub. When sexy time starts, draw up a bath & add in all the things to really set the mood. If you want to set the mood even more, light some Candles around the bath, & que up your favorite sexy time playlist to have as background music while you enjoy a perfect bath together. Don’t worry. Ill link my Spotify beneath the sheets playlist for you.
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Today were wrapping up a sexy game. This is a fun way to make foreplay last a little bit longer. I don’t know about you but I am very much into the foreplay. These are some of my favorite games that we have bought & played over the years BUT if you are on a budget, nothing wrong with some good ol fashioned truth or dare or naked hide & seek.
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Wrap up some body oil & a note that says “be ready for your massage at X time, no clothes allowed”. When that time rolls around, have the bedroom set & ready for an at home massage. Que the diffuser, que the spa music in the background, Que lots & lots of body oil. Oil up & give your partner the best massage you're capable of giving because we all know where this massage is leading…
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This one has taught me how tricky I can really be. You’re going to write down a bunch of different sex positions & put them in a baggie & that’s what you will wrap up. When it is time to get it on, you can choose to pick out just one new position to try, or if you are feeling wild, try multiple for the night.
Last year I got my lingerie from MENTIONABLES & left it on the bed in a black box with a big fat red bow on it. Bren opened it & his smile was the BIGGEST thing I have EVER seen. Like actually almost covered his whole entire face. He was VERY into it to say the least. Don’t feel weird about lingerie. It is perfectly normal. It really shouldn’t be a taboo subject. MENTIONABLES is my favorite lingerie brand because they have EVERYTHING from baby doll to bralettes to teddies to sexy sleep sets. So whether you’re looking for something new to add into your lingerie drawer or some cute sleepwear that will still spike the heart rate of your partner, mentionables has the goods.
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Tell your partner to try NOT to smile when they open today's gift. All you are going to wrap up is a Santa Hat. The only rule for tonight is SANTA HATS ONLY. Flaunt your body & throw on that Santa hat. Feel free to use the Santa hat for your personal desire & needs as the night goes on, have some fun with it. Ho ho ho, merry Christmas, naughty Santa is comin to town.
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